Superheroes protect all kids, of every color. What about you?
Thanks for sharing. You're not the only one.
Your plan looks like this: «If this happens, then I'll do that». For example: «If someone calls Tomás “China boy”, then I'll say “his name is Tomás”».
Make your plan
Your helper
Choose someone at home to help you: when they hear a nickname about color or a «bad hair», they'll say a secret word (for example, «full box!») so you remember your plan. And you can say it to the grown-ups too!
And if a nickname slips out: that's okay. Say sorry and try again tomorrow.
Tell your helper your plan.
Which part of your plan will you use first?
The last lesson!
Finish and go to lesson 10 →Racism doesn't give a warning. It shows up in the chat, on the field, in your own mouth. That's why it's worth deciding ahead of time.
Thanks for sharing. You're not the only one.
«If this happens, then I'll do that.» For example: «If someone calls Martín “China boy”, then I'll say “his name is Martín”». (Gollwitzer & Sheeran, 2006)
A habit takes about two months, and slipping one day doesn't ruin anything. (Lally et al., 2010)
Build your plan
Your full plan
1 · Your three «if… then». You already built them above.
2 · Your repair from lesson 7: did you do it yet? If not, when?
3 · Your ally: someone who'll ask you «what's their name?» when you use a color nickname.
4 · The day you slip: name it without punishing yourself, apologize if you said it in front of someone, and go back to the plan.
Tell your ally your plan.
Which of your «if… then» will be hardest?
The last lesson. And someone wants to tell you something.
Finish and go to lesson 10 →Sources for this lesson
- Gollwitzer, P. M. & Sheeran, P. (2006). Implementation intentions and goal achievement: A meta-analysis of effects and processes. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119. View source: Gollwitzer, P. M. & Sheeran, P. (2006). Implementation intentions and goal achievement: A meta-analysis of effects and processes. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119.
- Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W. & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009. View source: Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W. & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009.
Everyday racism doesn't give a warning. It shows up at the table, in the chat, at work, in your own mouth.
That's why it's worth deciding ahead of time what you'll do.
Thanks for sharing. You're not the only one.
«If this happens, then I'll do that»
Concrete plans work much better than good intentions. (Gollwitzer & Sheeran, 2006)
«If [something concrete happens], then I'll [do something concrete].»
For example:
- «If someone calls another person by their color, then I'll say their name».
- «If someone tells a racist joke, then I'll say “that's not funny”».
- «If someone says “bad hair”, then I'll say “it's curly hair, and it's beautiful”».
- «If I have to choose someone, then I'll ask myself if I'd choose the same with a different color».
You'll slip again
A nickname, a joke or a phrase you learned as a kid will slip out. It's human: they've been there a long time.
A new habit takes, on average, about two months to become automatic, and skipping a day doesn't ruin the process. (Lally et al., 2010)
Build your plan
Build three sentences. Pick an option in each part or write your own.
Your full plan
1 · Your three «if… then». You already built them above.
2 · Your hardest phrase. Look at what you wrote in lesson 1. What will you say instead?
3 · Your home. Write the change from lesson 7 that you'll keep: pencils, books, toys, phrases.
4 · Your ally. Choose someone you trust and tell them your plan. Ask for something concrete: «If you hear me calling someone by their color, tell me their name».
5 · Your table. Write the name of someone you'll invite to your table this month.
6 · The day you slip. Write what you'll do when it slips out. Some help:
- Notice it without punishing yourself.
- Correct it in the moment: «Sorry, I meant ___ (their name)».
- Go back to your plan the next day.
Tell your ally your plan.
Which of your «if… then» will be hardest? Why?
You've reached the last lesson. You'll look in the mirror again.
And there's someone who wants to tell you something.
Finish and go to lesson 10 →Sources for this lesson
- Gollwitzer, P. M. & Sheeran, P. (2006). Implementation intentions and goal achievement: A meta-analysis of effects and processes. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119. View source: Gollwitzer, P. M. & Sheeran, P. (2006). Implementation intentions and goal achievement: A meta-analysis of effects and processes. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119.
- Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W. & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009. View source: Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W. & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009.
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