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What is someone like who doesn't compete? · 8 min
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Can you imagine someone arriving at the end of the game and getting the same prize as you?
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The compass
There was a very good man who told stories to teach.
The workers who came late
An owner paid all his workers the same, the ones who came early and the ones who came late. The first ones got mad. The owner told them: “I didn't take anything from you. Does it bother you that I'm generous?”
The brother who wouldn't come in
When the younger brother came home, the dad threw a party. The older brother got mad and stayed outside. The dad went out to find him: “Everything I have is yours. Come to the party.”
The two sisters
One sister worked a lot and complained that the other wasn't helping. He spoke to her kindly: each of them had chosen something good.
He never competed. He always said the same thing: look at what's yours, it's a lot. The older brother had everything, but the bug left him outside the party.
Other people's party 🎉
Today, when something good happens to someone, throw a little party: clapping, a hug or a big, loud “congratulations!”.
Why do you think the older brother didn't want to go into the party?
Tricks for when the bug bites!
Finish and go to lesson 6 →Imagine you trained all year, and someone who showed up at the very end gets the same prize as you.
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The compass
There was a man who changed history without an army, without money and without a title. He told stories that made people think.
The workers of the last hour
An owner paid the same to those who arrived at the end. The first ones complained. He told them he hadn't taken anything from them: “Does it bother you that I'm generous?”
The brother who wouldn't come in
When the younger brother came home, the father threw a party. The older one got angry and stayed outside. The father went out to find him: “Everything I have is yours.”
“And what about him?”
A friend pointed at another: “And what's going to happen to him?” The answer: that's not your business. Walk your own path.
The one who wasn't in the group
His friends wanted to stop someone who was helping people “because he isn't one of us”. He told them to let him be.
The two sisters
One complained that the other wasn't helping her. He answered kindly that he wasn't going to take away from her sister what she had chosen.
In no scene does he compete. He always says the same thing: look at what's yours, it's a lot.
The older brother had everything and stayed outside the party. That's what envy does: it doesn't take what's yours, but it doesn't let you enjoy it.
A day of being glad for others
Part 1 · Look for three pieces of good news from others: at school, at home, online.
Part 2 · Respond to each one with a real question.
Part 3 · At least one from someone you envy.
Part 4 · What happened to the sting?
Which scene did you identify with most?
Five tools for the exact moment of the sting.
Finish and go to lesson 6 →Imagine you worked all day, and someone who arrived at the very end gets paid the same as you.
What would you feel?
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The compass
There was a man who changed history without an army, without money and without a title. He told stories that made people think, and he treated people in ways nobody expected.
The workers of the last hour
He told the story of a vineyard owner who hired workers at different times of the day. At the end he paid them all the same. Those who had worked since morning complained: the last ones had worked only one hour! The owner answered that he hadn't taken anything from them: he had paid what they agreed. “Or does it bother you that I'm generous with them?”
The brother who wouldn't come in
He told the story of a son who left home, wasted everything and came back sorry. The father threw him a party. The older brother, who had always stayed, got angry and wouldn't come in. The father went out to find him: “You are always with me, and everything I have is yours. But we had to celebrate: your brother came back.”
“And what about him?”
He told one of his friends about the hard road ahead of him. That friend pointed at another and asked: “And what's going to happen to him?” He answered, in essence, that it was none of his business: “You follow me.”
The one who wasn't in the group
His friends saw a man who wasn't in their group helping people, just as they did. They tried to stop him “because he isn't one of us”. He told them not to stop him: whoever does good isn't against them.
The two sisters
He went to visit two sisters. One sat down to listen to him. The other worked nonstop in the kitchen, and in the end she complained: “Don't you care that my sister has left me to do everything alone?” He answered her kindly: she was worried about many things, and he wasn't going to take away from her sister what she had chosen.
What they have in common
In none of the five scenes does he compete. And in all of them someone is comparing: the worker counting the other's hours, the brother counting the years, the friend looking at the other friend, the group that wants it to themselves, the sister measuring who works more.
His answer always goes the same way: look at what's yours, it's a lot. “Everything I have is yours.” “You follow me.” “I took nothing from you.”
He doesn't tell them not to feel what they feel. He goes out to find them, speaks to them kindly and shows them that comparison was leaving them outside the party.
Envy leaves you outside
The older brother had everything: the house, the father, the inheritance. But he stayed outside the party, alone, looking in through the window.
That's what envy does: it doesn't take away what you have, but it doesn't let you enjoy it.
Which one do you identify with?
A day of being glad for others
Today, throughout the day.
Part 1 · Look for three pieces of good news from other people: at home, at work, online.
Part 2 · Respond to each one with real interest. Not a “nice”. Ask a question, ask for a detail, share the joy: “Tell me how it went!”, “How long did it take you?”, “How do you feel?”.
Part 3 · If one stings, even better. Choose at least one piece of news from someone you envy. That's the one that counts most.
Part 4 · Write how you felt with each one. Did the sting change after you asked?
Which of the five scenes did you identify with most? Why?
Now you know what it is, where it comes from, what it costs and what the opposite looks like.
Now the practical part begins. In the next lesson you'll learn five tools for the exact moment envy shows up: when you see the photo, when you hear the news, when you feel the sting.
Finish and go to lesson 6 →Lesson 5 of 10.
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